Helping vs. Hindering – 3 Ways to Help Someone You Love NOW

Many of us have loved ones who are experiencing hard times.  If you spend much of your stop worryingtime worrying about them, looking at them and wishing they were different, or telling them they are defective in some way… you are NOT helping, as a matter of fact you may be hindering the well being you so want for them without even realizing it!

Your thoughts and feelings are powerful, and what you give your focus and attention to… you get more of.  (And that goes for everything!)

In other words, if you are focused on all the things you don’t like about someone, you will see those things every time you look at them.

struggling loved oneIt’s a challenging situation, especially when someone you love is suffering, but you’re focus on the suffering doesn’t benefit the person you are trying to help at all… and it feels terrible for you as well.

Here are 3 things you can do right now to help shift your focus, raise your vibration and benefit both you and those you love.

1. Appreciate them –  Get a notebook or a piece of paper and begin writing down every positive aspectssingle positive thing you can think of, and when you’ve run out of positive things to appreciate go deeper until you find some more.  You have the power to influence another, and it happens when you hold them in the highest light, regardless of their behavior.

(Do this frequently for 30 days and you will be amazed)

2. Imagine their Well-Being – Use your powerful imagination to focus on the well being imagination is evidence of the divineof your loved ones.  What do they look like when they are doing well?  What does it feel like to be around them when they are in a state of well being?  Imagine giving them compliments on how great they are doing and how proud you are of them.

(You may think this sounds silly, but you use your imagination every time you worry about them, imagine the worst happening to them and conjure up images of all that could go wrong for them if they don’t change their behavior. )  Think about it…  When you worry you are imagining the worst and it feels terrible for you and everyone around you.

When you are using your powerful imagination to focus on well being, those you are focused on will benefit.  (Don’t take my word for it, give it a try for yourself!)

3. Believe in them – If you truly want to help someone, the most powerful way you can i-believe-in-you-completely_largedo that is to believe in them.  When you humiliate, guilt or demand certain behavior from others, you are sending a clear signal that you see them as “less than” or “defective” in some way and that your love and approval of them is conditional on their behavior.

In simple terms, you vibrationally shout “I DON’T Believe in Your abilities” every time you are around them.  When you truly believe in someone, you give them the courage to believe in themselves.

You can take these steps immediately, right now where you stand, regardless of what your circumstances are, regardless of how anyone else is behaving and regardless of what anyone else thinks, does or says… because it all happens within YOU.

You are Divine by Design… and so are those you love, even if they don’t know it yet.

Discover your own Truth… and begin your journey with the decision to believe in Yourself.

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